Private First Look vs. Ceremony Reveal: What’s Right for You?
One of the most emotional decisions you'll make while planning your wedding is whether to do a private first look or wait to see each other during the ceremony aisle moment. It’s something almost every couple I work with in NYC brings up, and I completely understand why — it's a moment you only experience once. As a wedding photographer (and recent bride myself!), I want to help you navigate this choice from both a personal and professional perspective.
First Look: The Quiet Moment Just for You Two
A private first look gives you a chance to slow down, breathe, and really be present with each other before the whirlwind of the day begins. It’s usually a quiet moment away from the crowd—just the two of you (and me, capturing it all discreetly!).
In my experience, couples who choose a first look are less nervous during the ceremony because they’ve already had that emotional release together. They laugh more. They cry (in a good way!).
And the photos? Incredibly intimate and full of real, raw emotion.
From a photography point of view, a first look also gives us more time and flexibility for portraits, especially if you're doing a late ceremony or want to enjoy more of your cocktail hour.
Ceremony Reveal: The Classic, Heart-Stopping Moment
There’s something undeniably powerful about seeing your partner for the first time walking down the aisle. The music, the guests, the build-up—it all creates a moment filled with energy and anticipation. If you're someone who’s dreamt of that classic movie-like scene, this might be your moment.
Personally, I chose to do our first look during the ceremony. It was something I had always dreamed of, and in my culture and traditions, that moment is incredibly symbolic and emotional. I’ll never forget the feeling of seeing my partner at the altar for the first time—it was everything I imagined and more.
Many of my couples who choose this route say the ceremony reveal felt sacred and electric, surrounded by everyone they love. Just know that the trade-off is less time for portraits before the ceremony, which means we might need to do more photos during cocktail hour or after the ceremony.
So, What Should You Choose?
There’s no wrong answer. The best choice is the one that feels right for you as a couple. Some questions to help you decide:
- Do you value a quiet, private moment before everything begins?
- Is having a strong emotional reaction in front of guests something you feel comfortable with?
- Do you want more time for portraits and fewer logistics after the ceremony?
Whatever you choose, my job is to make sure it's captured beautifully, authentically, and with all the emotion it deserves. If you’re still unsure, let’s talk through it together. Every couple is different, and that’s what makes this decision so personal—and so special.
Planning your wedding in NYC? Let’s chat about your vision, your story, and how we can create timeless photos you’ll cherish forever.
